5 Steps to the Perfect First Message (Don’t Mention Birth Control!)

perfect first messageSend the Perfect Message

The first message in any conversation can be a tough one, especially when speaking to a beautiful woman online. Sometimes we will wait an extraordinary amount of time trying to come up with a clever, funny and intriguing line that will impress the person reading. Often what makes it so tough is that we really do not know who the person is, what they are like, what they find funny. On top of all that, things written online can often come across different than anticipated. This guide will allow you to craft a unique and perfect message every single time.

Read Their Unique Profile

This sounds like it should be obvious, but there are so many guys that are just flying through British dating websites and profiles without even reading them. A woman’s profile is the only clue that you are given to understand them, and by not reading it, you are basically shooting yourself in the foot.

Once you have analyzed their profile, then you need to be honest with yourself and ask if they are generally someone that you could get along with. There is a tendency to look past almost everything else whenever a guy is faced with a beautiful woman. However, this will not work out in the end. Make sure that you only spend time messaging women that you think will be interested in you, and this will help you be more honest, unique, and successful at having the perfect first message.

Find Out What You Have In Common

After reading their profile, you should have a basic understanding of the things that they like, along with a better idea about who they are as a person. Now you need to make a comparison between yourself and demonstrate what unique things that you both share. Sometimes you may need to look between the lines and find something that they say indirectly through their profile.

This will be your secret weapon for meeting women and having wonderful conversations with them. Most beautiful women are so used to hearing how gorgeous they are that when you tell them that they are beautiful, even if it is the most romantic and sincere thing you have ever said, they will see it as a turn off. Use the things that you have in common to make connections, keep the conversation flowing, and to show her that you are unique and different from all the other people that are messaging her.

Be Honest With A Compliment

Following the previous section, you want to make sure that you stand out by saying something that is truly unique about the person. If there is enough content in their profile, then you should try and compliment their personality based on that information. However, if this is not possible then you can mentions something about their physical appearance. However, try not to be cliche.

When complimenting their personality, you could make a broad statement about them seeming like a nice person or you could be more specific and compliment them for some of their expressed interests. For example, if they listed a few movies that they like, you could let them know that you agree with their taste in movies. Most profiles have lots of information, so you shouldn’t worry too much about finding something to say.

If you have to compliment their physical traits, then make sure to stay away from broad statements about their beauty. Instead, pick a specific trait that they have, and say something about it that has some substance to it. Let them know that it is more than just beauty. This will help separate you from all of the other guys who are saying the exact same thing.

Ask A Couple Of Questions

In order to facilitate a conversation, it is necessary to ask a few questions so that there is no reason for them to wait to respond. Simply saying hello is not enough to engage a girl, and once that first message is sent, it is weird to send a second one without any response. So in order to get the conversation going, it is a good idea to ask one or two questions that prompt her to respond. Don’t ask too many questions, and just keep it simple. No one likes to read a long intricate message on the web or their phone, so keep this in mind. Your questions should touch upon something that you have in common, or should highlight that the two of you are likely to get along. People love to talk about themselves, so why not give them a chance to do so?